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teddogSlow day at the office, waiting for materials and whatnot. I've been trying to get a slimmed down version of Coppermine up and running on Signal Loss. It seems to be coming along, although I'm going to have to dig to disable the rating system, since it's messing with my layout.
Small rant: I really don't like it in fandom when the non-words "molestable" or "rapeable" are used to describe an actor or a character. It's so... wrong.
We know what rape is. What does molest mean?
1. To disturb, interfere with, or annoy.
2. To subject to unwanted or improper sexual activity.
Yeah, in many cases where it's a character, we're dealing with a fictional thing. If you like non-con, that's your own thing. It seems to be a kink that's becoming very popular in areas of fandom, probably for the same reason incest is: It's "racy" and whatnot and slash and BDSM have been done. Buuuut... threatening molestion against another human, like an actor, with intent to carry out that action, is pretty wrong. I'm also willing to group younger characters under this "Wrong!" catagory. You don't walk up to a 4 year old on the street and tell the mother "Ooo! He's so rapeable!" That's grounds for being arrested.
If you wanna do someone, fictional or otherwise, then just say that. "I'd jump his bones" or whatever else works. Talking about molesting them, in the true sense of the word, hints that you are lacking confidence; that you believe that the object of your affection will not give you a second look, so you need to rape them in order to get what you want. That or you want sex slaves and I'm not sure where the law stands on that.
The sad thing is you see "molestable" a lot refering to geeky or socially awkward characters, which seems to be sort of insulting. Why is it assumed that a nerd will refuse sex, so you need to force yourself on them? This isn't fanfic and odds are, they aren't going to suddenly enjoy it at the end. Is it wrong somehow to call a geek sexy in the true sense, instead bringing them down to "It's only fun if you take advantage of them"? We have sex drives too, you know.
Meeeeeeh I'm done.
Small rant: I really don't like it in fandom when the non-words "molestable" or "rapeable" are used to describe an actor or a character. It's so... wrong.
We know what rape is. What does molest mean?
1. To disturb, interfere with, or annoy.
2. To subject to unwanted or improper sexual activity.
Yeah, in many cases where it's a character, we're dealing with a fictional thing. If you like non-con, that's your own thing. It seems to be a kink that's becoming very popular in areas of fandom, probably for the same reason incest is: It's "racy" and whatnot and slash and BDSM have been done. Buuuut... threatening molestion against another human, like an actor, with intent to carry out that action, is pretty wrong. I'm also willing to group younger characters under this "Wrong!" catagory. You don't walk up to a 4 year old on the street and tell the mother "Ooo! He's so rapeable!" That's grounds for being arrested.
If you wanna do someone, fictional or otherwise, then just say that. "I'd jump his bones" or whatever else works. Talking about molesting them, in the true sense of the word, hints that you are lacking confidence; that you believe that the object of your affection will not give you a second look, so you need to rape them in order to get what you want. That or you want sex slaves and I'm not sure where the law stands on that.
The sad thing is you see "molestable" a lot refering to geeky or socially awkward characters, which seems to be sort of insulting. Why is it assumed that a nerd will refuse sex, so you need to force yourself on them? This isn't fanfic and odds are, they aren't going to suddenly enjoy it at the end. Is it wrong somehow to call a geek sexy in the true sense, instead bringing them down to "It's only fun if you take advantage of them"? We have sex drives too, you know.
Meeeeeeh I'm done.
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Date: 2006-04-26 01:05 pm (UTC)And the Women of Comics panel looks quite interesting, too. Moggy and I had to make a decision on which con to attend and we decided on APE. But I'm kinda kicking myself right now.
Von
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Date: 2006-04-26 04:03 pm (UTC)The Women of Comics panel look neat, but I have no idea what state my weekend will be in. We've been dealing with family issues at the moment; my grandfather passes away last week and we haven't found a signed will yet. MASSIVE LEGAL HEADACHES.
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Date: 2006-04-26 06:03 pm (UTC)But seriously, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandpa. That's really tough and the lack of the will makes it that much harder. Even at the best of times death ain't easy, but to not be able to just focus on the death itself and the healing that goes along with it (if that makes sense) really bites hard.
Von
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Date: 2006-04-26 06:54 pm (UTC)Although, this marks the first time we've had an estate get frozen in probate. The other times, there was a will or everything was joint. It's sort of interesting to learn about, when it's not annoying the heck out of you.
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Date: 2006-04-27 02:53 am (UTC)Take care of yourself, y'hear!
Von